The reason people find it so hard to be happy
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”Aristotle
When you are happy you are confident, and you make choices that give you a better chance at success. When you procrastinate and resist change, that’s fear taking over.It’s difficult to pull up that creativity anchor and let the “happy you” set sail. Your fears are just trying to protect you from emotional pain. It’s self-preservation.Your fear starts with how you communicate with yourself. If you feel energized by an idea but your thoughts start tearing the concept apart before you even begin, you will lose motivation quickly.You need to sit down with yourself and watch the patterns that arise. Are you worried that people will laugh at your effort? Are you afraid that you will fail?By sitting down with your thoughts and noticing what occurs, you will have a better grasp on what is stirring your fear.Your feelings have a right to be there. They are, after all, trying to protect you. It’s important to be compassionate you’re your emotions because you can’t change these feelings. If you expect to overcome your fear, you have to accept your feelings and find a way to move in a more positive direction.I’ve struggled with allowing my emotions to be as they are without trying to force myself to feel happier. I used to make the mistake of trying to force new feelings. For example I was rejected for a key note address because they wanted to take the concept in a new direction. I thought I was going to land the job, but instead I had to face this disappointment. I went for walks and practiced Yoga like a mad man trying to change my feelings. It wasn’t until I accepted this disappointment that I was able to move on.
Happiness is NOT . . . . .
- It isn’t the ability to feel fabulous every moment of every day.
- It isn’t dependent on regular spikes of extreme joy.
- It isn’t a place where you’ll be content for the rest of your life once you get there.
- It isn’t regular partying or the buzz we get from exhilarating experiences.
All the above can be associated with pleasure, but they don’t constitute happiness, though they might contribute to it.
Happiness IS . . . . .
A point at which you are satisfied, fulfilled and contented with your life, with yourself as a person and with your environment. Internal and external factors define happiness for us — how we live, where we live, our involvement in the world, our relationships, our genetics, our outlook on life, . . . . . . . Cultivate a positive frame of mind. Improved positivity leads to a more confident feeling about yourself, improved creativity and a more successful and productive experience when you are working.Find special people you can spend time with – people who will lift you up because they value what you are trying to achieve. Forget those who drag your spirits down. They won’t do anything for your happiness levels.
